So much for avoiding boys...

So ok let’s give a boy update...

Maikol: totally thought we were having a date night Saturday when he brought along another girl…WTF said she was a friend but I was livid and my back was still hurting from my graceful moment falling down a flight of stairs at Hayes Hall…so as soon as the movie ended I put on my coat and started walking out so he rushed and caught up with me and it went like this

M: Did the movie upset you?

K: No…

M: Did you want to go for coffee?

K: Why did you want coffee?

M: Well no but did you want to go?

K:If you don’t want coffee why would you suggest we go?

M: (long pause….looks at weird girl…lightbulb goes off (I think)…) Did you want to get lunch tomorrow?

K: what?

M: Well I figured if you are on campus and I am on campus we can get lunch. I will be there with just the guys

K: I’ll call you

And I walk away still annoyed and avoid a real hug goodbye because I am soo mad about the situation…as I drive past him I don’t even look and/or wave
So next day we meet for lunch and I actually meet him at his office… he’s all by himself..so it’s just the two of us for lunch…on the way to the commons he is falling all over himself to open doors and make conversation so we end up pseudo-making up…and somehow it comes up that I can speak Spanish better than I let on so he starts trying to get me to speak in Spanish and he offers to teach me better Spanish if I will help him improve his English…which is cute right?

So I bring up Boston and how I might go for the weekend (although at this point I already know I’m not going but I wanted to gauge his reaction)

K: So I might go away for the weekend to Boston to see some friends

M: Oh really…I hear it’s really nice there, very different from New York or LA

K: Yea I don’t know if I should go though…long pause…what do you think?

M: Well if I am answering for me…I want you to stay here because we can have lots of fun, go out for Halloween, have our Spanish/English time alone, and get lunch like we always do…but I understand if you want t go and have fun

And then he just smiles at me…and I decide there that things are okay
I should add in that after the movie debacle I went to my friend Chris’ house for some hysterical times and drinking…and I ended up drunken spooning with Eric which was hysterical and slightly awkward and I couldn’t help but wonder if this was his first foray into pseudo-relations with girls (I mean it’s very in the air)…all very weird…but I do enjoy a good spoon, especially when no one is trying to jam their hands down your pants

Cue the next boy….also named Mike…I can’t help it! Apparently its something about the name

So okay, new boy…in my grad program…totally nerdy cute…like glasses and dimples which is an adorable combination in my book…he has been persistent in asking me out for ice cream…like seriously three times…

OK first back story…I met him back in September at the GPSA program...he had a girl with him so I assumed he was taken…and then we went to see Tony Blair together randomly…and he was very sweet and charming and after that came the ice cream invitation…but I couldn’t…not because I didn’t want to but because he asked at the most inopportune times like when I was at a meeting or something…but he kept trying and he would meet me in the lounge at school to chat or would call me or chat on facebook…anything to show he was interested I suppose…so we finally went out Sunday after my lunch with Maikol (I know pretty pimp right? I feel like Charlotte from SATC when she tries to do the double date day, I’m hoping it doesn’t blow up in my face)

So ok we go to Coldstone…and I find out he is sick and doesn’t really want anything so I ask him why he didn’t reschedule and he just looks at me and says he’ll be fine and gives me that cute dimpled smile( like seriously why didn't he reschedule? because he's been trying for so long?)..so we spend like 1.5 hours in Coldstone just talking…like about likes and dislikes, funny anecdotes etc and I was like oh well I should go…but I have notes from a class I took last year that he is taking now so I end up at his apartment…we end up talking and drinking and hanging out until like midnight when I finally decided I need to stop the banter and go...I tried to leave like 4 times but he would bring up a new topic or offer me a drink...he mentioned we needed to get drunk together and then busts out beers..haha too bad I don't drink beer...

and its weird because it feels like something has changed…I’m not sure what …maybe we became closer instantaneously…he shows me pictures from back home and what he looked like in high school (he’s a former chubby kid, which I find incredibly endearing) and I get this whole glimpse into his life…at one point we’re in his room and it does seem contrived he just wants to show me more of his life, and he tells me plenty like when he was 12 and his family’s house burned down and how hard it was and family issue type stuff…from a psychological standpoint I wonder why he shares so quickly…or maybe I just take too long to share with people…I’m not sure but reasons people share so quickly…they tell you everything to see if you’ll get spooked and leave, because you want a connection so badly, or because you automatically trust the person you’re with…I don’t know a time when I’ve trusted someone instantly other than Meg and Mel…so its weird for me to think someone can bond so quickly

But we’re pretty bonded…he seeks me out around school and I find him (though I pretend I wasn’t trying to) and he pays attention to everything…in a way that almost makes me self-conscious…he notices that I pick the peppers and onions out of my lemon pepper chicken, or that my smile crinkles when I’m being sarcastic and he answers in an even keel when I’m being ridiculous in a way that diffuses my ridiculousness and he talks about us in the we…as in when we do X it’ll be Y…

So obviously I am confused now…

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