Definition of a Hater
A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person. Hating, the result of being a hater, is not exactly jealousy. The hater doesn’t really want to be the person he or she hates; rather the hater wants to knock someone else down a notch. They generally don’t like themselves so they try to make everyone else feel insecure.
Hater Scale
1—Piggyback Hater—hating is a 3rd party ordeal, they have no real connection to the situation but heard about it through a friend or other hater ..basically you wonder why they’re saying anything and dismiss their crazy talk..
1.5—Teacher, Boss, Acquaintance—someone who’s comments you generally don’t care about because they don’t really know you
2—Wannabe--A being who speaks badly, and/or takes negative actions in attempt to create problems for a successful person. One who either verbally and/or physically inhibits another individual's game or mode of operation primarily due to jealousy, envy, animosity, bitterness, resentment, and contempt. A level 2 hater will blatantly exhibit either one or all of the aformentioned traits—this person is blatantly obvious
3— Public Hater—general public feel the need to comment on your situation without knowing you. A person who feels anger and/or jealousy for someone who has succeeded in something they have worked hard for.
4—Backstabbing Hater---talks trash about you to any and everyone, not generally trusted or revered.
5—Friend’s Parent, someone who is not in the friend category but has known you for a significant amount of time
6—Silent Hater—generally a friend who will scoff or make noise when you talk about making a major move. A person who pretends to act happy for your successes than trash talks you behind your back. Someone who most likely doesn’t have shit to work with and has to hate on people who move up in the world.
7—Person who thinks they are your best friend, often says they are just concerned about your well-being, a person who is normally happy for you but happens to drink some “hateraid” --- This term could be used to describe anyone who hates on another person for 'good reasons’. They will turn your good qualities/choices around and make it look like something bad because they just aren’t happy with themselves and can't achieve anywhere near what you have.
8—Your Parent, someone who’s hating you are used to –while it bothers you, you dismiss it because you know you know better
9—Best Friend, Significant Other—see level 10--less severe because of time together
10—Best Friend since the sandbox, Brother/ Sister, People that you built a treehouse/fort with (aka have known for years)…will also hate on you because they are “looking out for you” however because of your history its that much harder to let it go, they often bring up random anecdotes from years before that can cloud your judgment more than any other level hater
Ways to Combat a Hater
Confront the hater on the spot, don’t give it time to stew or creep into your mind and undermine your success or happiness
In cases of the “concerned hater” a brief reminder that you are a grown-up and can make your own decisions, generally in a sarcastic manner such as “Last time I checked I changed my own diapers, I think I can make decisions on my own” or “Thanks Mom/Dad but I got this one”
Use what you know about the hater to make a point
In the case of a level 2 hater…it is often best to keep them as a frenemy if only for comedic purposes…and to remind yourself you aren’t that lame
Dismiss them all together…if it doesn’t look like they’ve bothered you, haters generally go away
Kill them with kindness
Pretend to take their “advice” and seem concerned
Have a bottle of juice/soda/wine labeled “hateraid” in your fridge/car/truck and pour them a glass as soon as they start speaking
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